Avoiding Imposter Syndrome and achieving authenticity

Telling the fish what is water

Many people are not aware of their behaviors and how they can vary in different social situations. This lack of self-awareness can lead to less effective performance and inconsistency in their behavior.

Some coaches instruct their learners on behaviour modification, coping behaviors, ‘flexing’, whatever you call it, ‘positive affirmation’ to get them to adjust to the challenge. However, if they fail to instill mindfulness practices, their students may experience prolonged feelings of inauthenticity and unhappiness due to the unnaturalness of these behaviors.

Without self-awareness and understanding of their authentic personality traits, individuals may struggle to maintain a consistent and effective performance in different scenarios. This can affect their personal and professional relationships, as well as their overall sense of well-being.

People may pretend to be someone else to fit in due to a deep-seated desire for social acceptance. The fear of rejection and isolation drives individuals to adopt personas that align with perceived societal norms or popular trends. In seeking approval, they may suppress authentic traits, assuming roles that seem more socially desirable. This behavior often stems from a need for validation and a fear of judgment.

The pressure to conform to societal expectations can lead individuals to prioritize fitting in over expressing their true selves. Ultimately, the pursuit of social belonging drives the inclination to adopt alternative identities for social integration.

Natural behaviors are instinctive actions and responses, while IDENTI3 uses the terms ‘Masking’ or ‘Modified’ behaviours to describe individuals who are not self-aware of their behaviors and tend to fluctuate their behaviors in different situations.Masking or modified behaviors refer to temporary behaviors that individuals adopt to fit a particular scenario or social context. These behaviors are different from their main personality traits and are often adopted unconsciously.

People who engage in masking or modified behaviors without self-awareness tend to move from one scenario to another, causing confusion for themselves and others. They may also become tired after a while, leading to ill effects such as stress and burnout. In some cases, they may even feel like an imposter, as they struggle to maintain the façade of their modified behavior.

On the other hand, people who purposefully engage in masking or modified behaviors to fit a particular scenario understand that these behaviors are not their usual behaviors, but they do it to fit in. These individuals are aware of their actions and are more likely to maintain a healthy balance between their real selves and the modified behavior.

You can be truthful to your inner self by regularly reflecting on your values, acknowledging genuine emotions, and embracing authenticity. Allow yourself the freedom to express thoughts and desires without external influence.

At times, it is worthwhile to examine your environment. Are you in a setting that encourages self-discovery and personal growth. Are you with friends who encourage open and honest communication? Do you respect them and likewise, do they respect your true identity. It is also important to set boundaries that align with your values, saying no when necessary.

By consistently practicing these behaviors, you can foster a genuine connection with your inner self.

To avoid feeling lost or like an imposter, it’s important for individuals to understand their real values and behaviors.

Personality tests, such as the IDENTI3 profiling, can help individuals gain insights into their personality traits, strengths, and weaknesses. This serves as a guidepost before engaging in masking or modified behaviors, helping individuals to maintain a healthy balance between their true selves and the modified behavior they choose to adopt in a particular scenario.

‘I always thought that I had a clear understanding of myself. IDENTI3 Profiling helped me understand myself in ways I never could. It is like a crystal ball that showed me my values, orientation and behaviors!’
Irene, Test Respondent

In conclusion, combating imposter syndrome and achieving authenticity involves acknowledging one’s worth, embracing vulnerabilities, and setting realistic goals. Surround yourself with a supportive network that values your true self.

Shift your focus from perfection to growth and understand that authenticity is a journey, not a destination.

Remember, everyone faces doubts, but authenticity triumphs over perceived inadequacies. By embracing authenticity, one can overcome imposter syndrome, fostering genuine self-confidence and a fulfilling sense of identity.

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